At some point in our lives, most of us have been through these awful heartbreaks that left us in the emotional pits for months. Now there’s no way to avoid these heartbreaks but there are ways to get through them. Read further for some tips that might help get you through the tough phase of your life and get back to your normal self:
Feel Your Feelings
Going through a breakup is a shock to your system and you go through a flood of emotions so it’s important to be gentle with yourself and feel the feelings. In simpler words “feel your feelings” means to try to find out what’s going on in your mind and body. Try to label those feelings or define them rather than judging yourself for feeling them or trying to control your emotions.
In the days following the breakup allow yourself to cry and acknowledge that a breakup is no different than any other kind of loss, and what you’re feeling is completely justifiable.
Cut Off Communication With Your Ex
Heartbreaks do hurt a lot and there are scientific explanations behind that. Heartbreak is like a withdrawal from those good feelings you felt while you were with your partner. Like a person trying to quit smoking might crave cigarettes, similarly, a person going through a heartbreak craves those good feelings. But just like going for that one cigarette that you thought won’t harm your recovery process that much slows the process, keeping the communication going with your ex might have the same effect.
You’d want to go back to them and talk to them to get those good feelings back but it would slow down your moving on the process just that much. So you have to be strong for yourself and cut the communications for your betterment and recovery from the heartbreak.
Find a Support System
When going through a heartbreak, you need a support system to let you through this phase. As tempting as it could be to cut off yourself from the world and not let anyone be a part of your pain, for any reason, it’s not a healthy way to cope.
You do have a lot of people who love you, your friends, your family, etc, but they’re unable to show that love to you because you’re not letting them know how to. So call your friends or the family members you’re the closest to, and let them know you need their support to get through it and allow them to be your support system.
Exercise
After a heartbreak, it gets really difficult to even get out of bed for some people but wallowing in your feelings will not help you get through it quicker. Go out for a run, start to exercise, and make your routine a little more physically active than spending all day in bed. It’s scientifically proven that exercise helps to release happy hormones and help you feel better, regulate your sleep cycles, and make you feel good overall.
It would also help you feel more confident and positive about yourself.
Create New Routines
You might have some routines with your ex, like going out to movies on Friday nights, or dinners on weekends. Initially, you might feel lost as to what to do with your time now that you don’t have the person you used to spend it with, but you need to allow yourself to see that now your schedules are open for changes.
Make new plans to replace those routines instead of sitting at home and thinking about the past. Create new hobbies for yourself or indulge in new activities that you were previously missing out on due to lack of time.
Be Kind To Yourself
The last but one of the most important tips is to be kind to yourself. After a breakup we tend to go on the path of hating ourselves, blaming ourselves for everything that went wrong, or finding faults in ourselves and basing the breakup on those faults. You have to avoid doing that to yourself.
Be gentle to yourself, give yourself the much-needed self-love and care. Rather than focusing the negative energy on yourself, think about the bad parts of the relationship that you won’t be missing out on, and allow yourself to get through the heartbreak.
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